Generic Things I’ve learned

Bitter-sweet wisdom.

I'm with you Mommy.

Just thought I would share some things I’ve learned.

1. You can literally feel the moment your heart breaks over and over if you allow yourself to slow down and sit with it, which you have to do.

2. A lot of people will surprise you with their kindness and sometimes, it’s unexpected people. A lot of people will shock you with their shittiness. Thankfully for us we have had more of the kindness than anything.

3. Sobbing in the grocery store is a common thing with grieving Moms. It comes from no longer having to buy that one extra pizza, or one extra box of fish because the boy ate more than us.

4. Sobbing can literally hit at any time. It may be the glance at a toddler with blonde hair, the kindness you see someone do for someone else, the parent being hurtful to their child or…

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The Best Oven Fried Chicken

The best oven fried chicken – Crispy on the outside and tender on the inside, and baked right in the oven for easy cleanup.

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Parisian Hot Chocolate with Raspberry Whipped Cream

You only need 3 ingredients to make this deeply flavorful, thick, luscious Parisian hot chocolate (Le Chocolat Chaud), that will most likely be the finest cup of hot chocolate you will ever have! Top it with some raspberry whipped cream and marshmallows and enjoy an indulgent hot chocolate whenever you need some cozy comfort! 🙂 A truly decadent hot chocolate that’s served in cafes in Paris, this is also known as Le Chocolat Chaud. But I call it, the best freaking hot chocolate ever! You only need 3 ingredients to make this Parisian Hot Chocolate, but it’s everything you would dream

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Chocolate Italian Love Cake

Perfect Valentine’s dessert! xo

Veronica's Cornucopia

I made this for our Valentine’s Day dessert because 1) it’s “Italian” (I put that in quotations because honestly, I think the only reason it’s called “Italian” is because there is ricotta cheese in it), so I thought it would go well with our Spaghetti & Meatballs, and 2) it’s a Love Cake, therefore perfect for Valentine’s Day. 🙂  However, I’m sharing this with you today, a regular non-Hallmark holiday day, because it’s simply a fantastic cake that should be enjoyed and made for those you love on any old day, not just days designated for celebrating your loved ones.

This cake is every bit as good as it looks.  I don’t like ricotta because of the texture, but it really works with this cake.  It’s not a heavy cake, which is dangerous, because it’s also addictive and the “lightness” makes it easier to trick yourself into thinking that…

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Dealing with the Fear of Doubt and of Questioning Religious Beliefs We have been Taught

Love this. It is ok to think and have doubts.

Jesus Without Baggage

Growing up a fundamentalist, and then 25 years as an evangelical, I witnessed a lot of fear and experienced significant fear myself. These very conservative environments are filled with fear and, to a large extent, are based on fear—fear of God, fear of hell, fear of making a mistake, fear of being wrong, and fear of being rejected by God (and the church).

One must constantly toe the line on God’s many requirements, believe all the right doctrines, and never waver. One of the greatest dangers is doubt; doubt is castigated as being from the devil, and we are warned of the dire consequences of being led astray—punishment in eternal hell fire. Security is found only in accepting tradition passed down as God’s own certain truth from one generation to another to another.

In these circles, having doubt is considered a loss of faith, so…

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Free Will

“Aligning any political regime with the divine realm is called “civil religion.” Though common in American politics, biblically speaking, civil religion is bad. Way bad”.-Pete Enns
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I used to think every time something happened that I couldn’t explain, or struggled with it was God’s will.
Even when everything was going my way I would attribute it to God’s favor on me. I was being blessed. There isn’t anything wrong with that, I love when life is “going” my way, I do try very hard to have a heart of gratitude.
But when I woke up the day after the presidential election I was stunned to find out that Donald Trump had actually been elected. I was not one of the reveler’s. I was sincerely shocked. The shock has not worn off. Gratitude was at a premium right about then.
Voicing my stunned disbelief at this presidential outcome has often been meant with comments like “It was God’s will that Trump is president”
Or “It’s over, time to move on”.
But my recent fav is this, “You’re a snow flake”. (A snow flake? I’m ok with that, I love snow, I miss snow, since the average temp in Tampa Bay hovers around 75* in January, call me a snowflake)
I would love to move on, really, I would!
I just don’t see that happening in the next four years. I would be thrilled to be wrong about DT, to be surprised by the president elect. But I’m not holding my breath. And I will be happy to eat crow, if I am proven wrong!
Political disagreement is one of the greater aspects of living here in the US. We can agree to disagree.
With that said, I don’t for one minute believe that God put Trump into the white house.
We the people did this and our electoral college sealed the deal.
It was not divine intervention on God’s part to keep Hillary Clinton out and put Donald Trump in.
Slinging around bible verses to support the “God’s will theory” is disingenuous at best. And at worst it makes God out to be a bully. (I don’t believe God is a bully. A mystery, yes, a bully, no).
If God put any one into ANY political office it would negate the much touted “we all have a free will” argument of many fundamentalist religions.
The “free will” discussion that I have with many lovely, fundamentalist friends is this:
“God does not send anyone to hell, we send ourselves to heaven or hell”.
This is a very traditional, fundamentalist view of salvation. By saying a certain prayer a certain way, in a certain order we choose to send ourselves to heaven.
And if we don’t say the prayer, we send ourselves to hell. But, even that has evolved somewhat into God will reveal himself to everyone. (Cool, but, that is another discussion).
My point is this” If we have a free will, we have it in all situations, we made a choice. And somehow, some way, the choice was Donald Trump as the president elect. God help us.

Food: Pizza with Artichoke, Lemons and Spinach

Yummy! A must try.

Every week I search for new ways of making a meal from the old – if you know what I mean. I shop at Trader Joe’s every week and buy the same things –  the proteins, fresh organic veggies and fruits, and not so much starchy products. At most dutch potatoes. So I get online and search for recipes to try and I have to tell you my mouth was watering at the thought of this recipe:


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